Monday, June 20, 2011

My Place is To Love...

What are you to do when someone you dearly love is continually manipulated by their own extended family members?  When they are hurt time and time again by actions, words, and innuendos that are so self serving that it's obvious to you , but perhaps not so clearly to your loved one?  Perhaps they struggle with the idea that anyone means what they actually say.  There is not always a hidden message tucked neatly away so as to be able to deny devious implications, should they be called out on them. 

I have learned that some battles are not mine to fight.  But the messes that these battles cause are mine to sop up.  The pieces of the broken heart they so masterfully destroy are mine to mend back together.  It's not fair to the person I love--or to me.  It's not fair that people who tell your loved one, to his face, that they love him will continue to make everything in life about themselves--about their needs--and about their desires, always at his expense.  It's not fair, but I've learned that it just IS their way.  Their ways are passive aggressive.  Their ways are unfortunately destructive. 

I pray that God gives me the grace to reach yet another state of forgiveness towards them.  Right now I am stumbling to find it.  Right now all I want to do is protect my loved one. Stand in front of him and take them on because I can see them for who they really are.  But... I can not. It is not my place.  

My place is beside him; to simply and completely love him.  

Tuesday, June 14, 2011

Trusting God--Not Well-Meaning Friends-- in Educating My Children

There appears to be three sides to the education debate: public, private and home school.  Those are the options.  I knew this going in, but what I wasn't aware of is that many who "play" for each of these teams are strongly opposed to any other option other than the one they have chosen for their own child.  While I respect all parents and the struggles we must go through to decide what's best for our child's needs-- is it really fair to bash someone's decision based on our own bias?

For three years I have followed what I clearly thought was God's direction in educating my children at home.  I never gave birth knowing this was the way things were going to fall into place-- in fact just the opposite.  Home schooling was too big for me to even think about pursuing!  I wasn't smart enough, I didn't have enough patience, and honestly-- I didn't want to do it.  God has a sense of humor...

I was called into this new vocation of teaching my kids at home, and at the end of each year I would pray about the coming year.  "Lord, is this still what you want me to do?"  For three years the answer was an unequivocal, "Yes!"  And I was obedient to this calling.  In it my children have flourished and gained what they have needed from homeschooling: education that fits their learning styles, confidence, calmness, and above all else a sense of values and unconditional love.  I won't deny that I also got a lot from this experience.  It was tough, and many mornings I would wake up not wanting to "teach", but I saw the growth happening inside my children, so I plugged on...

This year we have moved across the country for many personal reasons.  One of those reasons was education for both children.  My oldest who will be finishing up middle school this year has high school and all the wonderful experiences of those four years to look forward to.  My youngest, who is an extrovert and also diagnosed with ASD, is going into third grade, voicing a desire to go to "real" school.  But his needs are such that just any school wouldn't do.  A lot of time and research went into figuring out what was best for both kids-- knowing that God needed to first release me from the call to homeschool before we could pursue other options.  After a lot of prayer, and getting those mini-miracles that happen when things simply fall into place after I heard what I thought was God speaking to me, we have chosen two great schools for the kids to attend next year!

Full of excitement I shared this news with some home schooling friends.  You know, the friends who would get the whole "God gave me a message" thing...  And to my dismay I received some rather hurtful words in return.  In other words I was failing my kids by putting them back into traditional school.  Wow!  That was a shocker.  Not that I bought into that thought process, but that these people were acting EXACTLY like the people (even some relatives) that scoffed at the homeschooling idea three years ago!  How alike we are in our justification of meanness.  Hmmm

Parents be encouraged that God will speak to your heart on matters such as this.  I believe that He is the Master Planner--not us.  Every child is different, and every need will be met in a different way.  Trust that He will lead you in the direction that is best for your family, their needs, and work within your own limitations and abilities.  When others on the opposing education teams (or well meaning relatives) blast you for your "self-righteous" decisions, remember above all else, trust Him.

Tuesday, June 7, 2011

VeggieTales' LIVE! Sing Yourself Silly AND A Chance to WIN a Copy Here!


My copy of VeggieTales LIVE Sing Yourself Silly hit our front porch last Saturday afternoon just as we were about to leave our home for a 30 minute drive into Nashville. My youngest son literally grabbed the unopened DVD and begged us to let him watch it in the car. Of course we obliged!--It's VeggieTales! What a fun time he had singing along to his favorite VeggieTales' songs while watching this show from the comfort of the backseat! He's since watched it non-stop about 500 times (you know...give or take).

Introducing the first-ever Veggie Tales Live! DVD based on their successful touring stage show! Veggie Tales Live! Sing Yourself Silly showcases 18 of the most classic and popular Veggie Tales songs performed live on stage including “His Cheeseburger,” “Love My Lips!,” “The Hairbrush Song,” plus a few hits from the 80’s that both parents and kids will enjoy. There are also several fun and family-friendly bonus features included such as a peek behind the curtain on “Larry’s Backstage Pass.”

Includes The Songs: 
“VeggieTales Theme Song” 
"The Water Buffalo Song” 
"Big Things Too" 
"Gourds Just Wanna Have Fun" 
"Song of the Cebu" 
"Dance of the Cucumber" 
"God is Bigger" 
"His Cheeseburger" 
"Love My Lips!" 
"The Pirates Who Don’t Do Anything" 
"Do the Moo, Shoo" 
"Rumor Weed" 
"Endangered Love" (Barbara Manatee) 
"The Hairbrush Song" 
"I Can Be Your Friend" 
"VeggieTales Theme Song (Reprise)
Bonus Features: 
Larry’s Backstage Pass – Behind the scenes of VeggieTales Live! 
VeggieTales Trivia Game 
Discussion Guide 
Silly Song Sing-Alongs (4 songs)

The DVD releases today, June 7, but you can also order VeggieTales' Sing Yourself Silly at for the great low price of $11.99. 


I've been given an additional copy of VeggieTales' LIVE to give out to one of my readers!  Enter for your chance to win!  Simply go to the comments section under this post and tell me what your FAVORITE Silly Song is!  Winner will be chosen randomly...probably because I love ALL the Silly Songs and can't choose JUST one! 
Winner will be announced Friday, June 10.  

Disclosure: I received a copy of VeggieTales'' LIVE Sing Yourself Silly for free in the hope that I would mention it on my blog. Opinions on this blog, as always, are my own. LS